Be careful with
a man’s heart.
It is a precious thing.

Vulnerability lives there
in equal measure
to courage.

Let him show you.
Hold him there.
Be openness.
Be space.
Be acceptance.
Be love.

When he has hopes,
say, “Tell me more,”
When he has fears,
say, “Tell me more.”

Let your body
be a cradle.

When he opens,
he may have tears.
Welcome each one.
Kiss them.

When he is
weary, say,
“Come,
put your head
in my lap
I will stroke
your hair
and love you.”

When he
is brave,
shine your eyes
at him
and let him see
your pride.

Open your heart
to him
Trust him
to feel it.

When he loves you,
really loves you,
surrender.

When he is handsome,
which is every day,
kiss him
tenderly,
with love.
Then lingeringly,
with deep passion.
Then more.
More.
More.

Know this:
His heart is yours.
There is no difference.
There is no difference.
When he gives it
to you,
treat it like a treasure.
There is no difference.

Once, I ran from fear
so fear controlled me.
Until I learned to hold fear like a newborn.
Listen to it, but not give in.
Honour it, but not worship it.
Fear could not stop me anymore.
I walked with courage into the storm.
I still have fear,
but it does not have me.

Once, I was ashamed of who I was.
I invited shame into my heart.
I let it burn.
It told me, "I am only trying
to protect your vulnerability".
I thanked shame dearly,
and stepped into life anyway,
unashamed, with shame as a lover.

Once, I had great sadness
buried deep inside.
I invited it to come out and play.
I wept oceans. My tear ducts ran dry.
And I found joy right there.
Right at the core of my sorrow.
It was heartbreak that taught me how to love.

Once, I had anxiety.
A mind that wouldn't stop.
Thoughts that wouldn't be silent.
So I stopped trying to silence them.
And I dropped out of the mind,
and into the Earth.
Into the mud.
Where I was held strong
like a tree, unshakeable, safe.

Once, anger burned in the depths.
I called anger into the light of myself.
I felt its shocking power.
I let my heart pound and my blood boil.
Listened to it, finally.
And it screamed, "Respect yourself fiercely now!".
"Speak your truth with passion!".
"Say no when you mean no!".
"Walk your path with courage!".
"Let no one speak for you!"
Anger became an honest friend.
A truthful guide.
A beautiful wild child.

Once, loneliness cut deep.
I tried to distract and numb myself.
Ran to people and places and things.
Even pretended I was "happy".
But soon I could not run anymore.
And I tumbled into the heart of loneliness.
And I died and was reborn
into an exquisite solitude and stillness.
That connected me to all things.
So I was not lonely, but alone with All Life.
My heart One with all other hearts.

Once, I ran from difficult feelings.
Now, they are my advisors, confidants, friends,
and they all have a home in me,
and they all belong and have dignity.
I am sensitive, soft, fragile,
my arms wrapped around all my inner children.
And in my sensitivity, power.
In my fragility, an unshakeable Presence.

In the depths of my wounds,
in what I had named “darkness”,
I found a blazing Light
that guides me now in battle.

I became a warrior
when I turned towards myself.

And started listening.

Don't go looking for stability in a partner
Don't go looking for stability in a relationship
Don't go looking for stability in a job
Don't go looking for stability in a bank account

If we are depending on anything or anyone
In our external world
To bring us permanent stability...

We are constantly going to be living in fear
Of losing our security
We are always going to be seeing ourselves
As victims of circumstance
And we are going to be disappointed
Over and over again

People grow apart
Relationships breakup
Jobs become redundant
Money is never enough

As humans we are continually transforming
Change is the only constant
Life is a journey into the unknown
And nobody can ever promise us tomorrow

We have to become
So empowered in our personal sovereignty
So solid in our inner strength
So grounded in our individual truth

So flowing in our flexibility
So unattached in our thoughts
So trusting in our divinity
So stable in ourselves ...

That we know we are able to rebuild
After whatever tremors crumble our foundations

We know we can fearlessly ride
Whatever tsunamis capsize our boat

We know we will graciously weather
Whatever storms clear our path

And we know
Without any doubt

That no-one
And nothing
Holds the power...

To uproot
Our internal stability

To be happy you have to be able to live from the heart. The courage to trust and follow no matter what. To have the Heart.
In fact the word “Courage” has the same Latin route as the French word “coeur” meaning “heart”.
The Courage to live from the heart. To have HEART. To travel at the speed of Love.
What do you Love? What makes you feel happy, not just think that you might be happy. Follow it.
Your heart knowing will take you there every time.
Be honest with yourself and Trust your Heart and action it.

I So Love You
*****************
PS: And to follow your Heart is not to follow your emotions. which pull you through a "neediness".
Heart propels you through honesty, integrity, authenticity, sovereign Beingness.
And I am told that the speed of love is "the speed of light squared". I have never measured it. All I know is that it appears instantaneous because as soon as I feel it, it is EVERYWHERE.

One year ago, my life changed forever...

Hello, my love! So, today it is exactly one year of my heart and dreams being broken into a trillion pieces! Yet here I am, alive, smiling, happy (sometimes sad) ... you know why? Because I love you... :)

I remember the three days after this day one year ago, I just lay in bed, crying, didnt eat bathe felt like I had died. And how my Father held me in His embrace... He let me vent and fight with Him... and on the 4th day, He just gently picked me up and siad enough, get up and I did. Can I ever thank Him enough for being there for me? My joy and my smile is my thanks to Him.

And you... you who I just love with all my heart and soul, I had hoped body too. But that didnt happened. You who I don't even look at as much as I would like to. Because I know my eyes will give my love away... and now this love is just for me and the whole world, but cannot express to you. So you know what I did? I turned all this love towards myself and started treating myself the way I would have loved you. Because I want this love even if it has broken my heart to be my strength, my smile never ever my weakness (it is sometimes my tears, when I cry and cry but it is only love that I cannot give you so it flows from my eyes). Love is love even when it is not reciprocated. I mean you are a beautiful soul, and I cannot deny seeing that even if you are not part of my life. A good person will always be a good person. And our hearts should be big enough to acknowledge that.

I pray that you never ever know because I would never want you to feel sad in anyway and oh please never feel sorry for me. If anything, be proud of me. That even if I have mothing, I still hope and pray and smile and dance. That I have the courage to keep my heart open. That I trust in love, goodness, smiles, and have faith in everything working out the way it is meant to. Even if we dont always understand it.

And you know how I sit sedately when you are near when all I want to is run and hug you haha I imagine your look if I ever did that. But I never will as your dignity means so much to me. But sometimes I look at you and just want to kiss your nose and bite your hands lolol. I am so grateful for this safe space where I can record my feelings quietly so my heart lightens.

So when the desire to love you just makes me burst I kiss my palms and pray... for your happiness in every sphere of life, for your family as I know how much their well being means to you... I pray that you never have a sad moment and even if you do you always find the strength to live through them, that each day of your life is simple, peaceful, filled with smiles and delightful moments.

I hope my love reaches you without you knwoing its me and it makes you feel just so good about yourself, makes you walk tall and fill your heart with love.

I just love you!

Become loving. When you are in the embrace, become the embrace. Become the kiss. Forget yourself so totally that you can say, “I am no more. Only love exists.” Then the heart is not beating, but love is beating. Then the blood is not circulating, but love is circulating. Then eyes are not seeing, love is seeing. Then hands are not moving to touch, love is moving to touch. Become love and enter everlasting life. Love suddenly changes your dimension. You are thrown out of time and you are facing eternity. Love can become a deep meditation, the deepest possible. Lovers have known sometimes what saints have not known.

My heart, the bird of the wilderness,
has found its sky in your eyes.

They are the cradle of the morning,
they are the kingdom of the stars.

My songs are lost in their depths.
Let me but soar in that sky,
in its lonely immensity.

Let me but cleave its clouds
and spread wings in its sunshine.

Hands cling to hands and eyes linger on eyes
thus begins the record of our hearts.

Is it true, is it true,
that our love travelled alone through ages and worlds
in search of each other.

This love between you and me is simple as a song.

~ Rabindranath Tagore
From The Gardener

Often, it takes a cracking open of your outer shell—some part of your life where you can't make sense of things, where you run into an obstacle you can't control or manipulate—to return you to the holy place within that can fuel and source a meaningful life. It is the events, circumstances, and experiences in the outer world that will ultimately expose the illusions that keep you stuck inside your human shell.

You may have to lose your job or your money, experience the loss of a loved one or a betrayal, or become consumed by an out-of-control addiction to push past the closed doors of your ego's mind. I can assure you that all your challenges are there for one reason only: to turn you inward, and regardless of how you arrived here—through a desire to grow, a silent unhappiness, or a painful cracking open of the self—this cleanse bridges the gap between the internal and the external, so that you can return to your soul's deepest purpose by reconnecting to your divine essence.

New Ways of Being

Do you fully realise that the Universe is unfolding perfectly and everything has its place and is in perfect harmony with the whole?
You are an essential piece in this Grande singularity.
Do you get that you are Eternal? Do you get that you are in the perfect place and time ALWAYS? 
So you really can relax.
The Flow, the Divine Flow, is within and around you constantly. It cannot be controlled. That was the illusion, that was the seed of all fears, that was the loss of freedom.
You do not have to try anymore to get somewhere. You are there (Here really).
There is absolutely nowhere else better than where you are NOW.
You are in Earth embodiment recreating your Heaven through the restoration of self and transformation to your Self.
As soon as you stop trying, second guessing, planning, seeking you will immediately begin to see that you already have arrived at that great ‘final’ destination you have been seeking.
It is here and now.
And it is not one point, and yet is IS, One Eternal Flowing, ever moving, changing, expanding, creating. The, Joy, and everlasting peace will instantly show up as the 'background" to your Being, when you have accepted that you are Home and let go to allow it to appear within You..
Now the glorious adventure can continue. Everything is laid out before you in never ending surprise packages of expansion and joy. Fears drop away, blocks drop away, pain is released, suffering, unsafe, lack, need are disintegrated.
Allow feelings to arise and leave, speak to the little mind (*thought patterns ) in tones of your Lovingness. Move from unwakefulness, through the ‘haze, into the Dream of ‘“in between”, to Masterhood.
Relax and allow the New “Game” to unfold.

Love is the key. 
Love is the Allowance of the Grace and the energy of ONE. 
Love is the movement of the Mother through you and the stillness of the Father anchored in you. 
It is the interconnectedness and the state of Divine Union. 
Love is the being of that state of HOME. 
It has descended and you have been penetrated more than you can imagine at this time (Sacred Self Presence). 
Recognising that You are the essence of One, waking up is not just about you rejoining. It is about you CONSTANTLY allowing and remembering the truth and the wholeness of who you have always been. 
You have always carried the essence of Love. The quantum leap is simply you breaking away from the story of “Am I loved, am I lovable. Am I LOVE?” to the full acceptance that you are Love and that everything and everyone carries the same Essence. 
The only thing you are leaving behind is a Drama, a story. The movie of “out there” that was created by a “Shadow” of Humanity in its ‘darkest “hour to control and temporarily prevent Self from remembering. 
It is OVER now. We are not getting or running away from anything. We are stepping into what is real and what has always been, facing the continual choice of the True from the false.
It is entirely different to any other incarnation because you are choosing to allow the Truth of your abilities to Shine through. 
Gaia can now restore her full glory without tolerating the impact of the cruel drama you have been enacting with yourself. 
And as these things are streaming from your body, yu are often feeling lighter, giddy and extremely fatigued. 
Lie down and surrender to the Love of who you are. And because you can only put energy in for short spurts does not mean that nothing is being done.
Haven’t you felt the growing stillness within and the dissolving of the old fears. It is in this stillness where so much is being accomplished. 
In fact much, much more than you ever accomplished working hard all day. 
This is the New Way the way of 5th dimensional Beingness. 
LESS IS MORE because in your Lovingness and the simplicity of Being, there is the Knowing and there is a Miraculous effortless economy of doing and of creating.

Only two fulfilled persons can relate.

To relate is one of the greatest things of life:
to relate means to love,
to relate means to share.

But before you can share, you must have.

And before you can love you must be full of love, overflowing with love.

Two seeds cannot relate, they are closed.
Two flowers can relate; they are open,
they can send their fragrances to each other, they
can dance in the same sun and in the same wind,
they can have a dialogue, they can whisper.

The Yogi looked so serene and inviting, that the snake wanted to pour his heart out. All he could utter, was, “I am known to bite even those who feed me, so no one accepts me anymore.”
“Come! Wrap yourself around my neck in embrace”, said the Yogi. “I am known to accept those who are shunned”.
“You ask for me to embrace you simply on the premise that I feel shunned?” asked the snake.
“Yes, I ask everyone to embrace me”, said the Yogi. “Everyone is shunned by someone else. The poor, for example, are shunned by the rich. The rich by the religious, some people shun themselves; even the spiritual are shunned by many. I am a lover of all”.

~The Yogi And The Snake

'When a man is ready to discover his true self, the journey will usually take him in the opposite direction to which he has been traveling … away from the highway of the ego-mind, to the narrow path that leads to the heart.

If he is open to loving a woman, it’s in this place he recognises that she is pivotal to the growth of his soul; that she has such a deep réservoir of love within, waiting for him to experience, far beyond anything he has ever imagined. And he comes to understand that this secret paradise has remained hidden from him because the eyes of his heart were not open to see it. This is where he hears her call his name from the depths of his soul. And for the first time, he becomes conscious of what it means to passionately love and adore a woman with his whole being.

There, together, the man and woman’s souls are joined as they enter into what can only be described as divine love ... that which the Creator always intended for us to enjoy. In this beautiful place of surrendering to each other, the two love with a new spiritual and intimate understanding, while at the same time, unlocking their own greatness as they discover their oneness and united purpose for being.'~

~ Daniel Nielsen

On listening to gossip or facing an argument.

Gossip and under cover, finger pointing, judgement and separation is rife in so called "spiritual communities".
What is in it for you or the other. Do you really have to participate? Think peace rather than noise.
LOVE is not jealousy, name calling, "I'm better than you" "I'm more on the path than you". I have better tools" "I've been doing it longer". "I coming from a higher dimension"... and so many more subtle and not so subtle ways of judging others against yourself or judging yourself against others.
Haven't you realised that your path is totally and perfectly mapped out for your perfect alignment if only you would Trust and follow your own Heart and Higher Self promptings?
And "Mind you own business".

Choose to be with your internal Smile. And always silence over trying to be right.
Say “No” when it is necessary that the other know where you stand but otherwise find the place of Presence within yourself, see that same place in the other and hold your tongue.
And never be afraid to walk away without judgement but with Love in your Heart, or “walking tall” in your Lovingness for All.

PS And it is not about convincing me that you are beyond all this. It is about your own inner knowing of how loving you are and can be.
If you want to break your own dramas stay out of the dramas of others for a start, and be unafraid to be seen to withdraw. What kind of pleasure is it to enjoy the sharing of others misery?
Next stop repeat telling of your story. What kind of glory do you create by forever dumping your moods on others. There is a subtle pressure for your past misery mastered to become a badge of merit that gives you bragging rights to puff yourself up. 

Everyone wears a pearl gladly.
But Shiva,
He wraps the snake around His neck as call.
Everyone takes measure of their kingdoms,
large or homely small.
But Shiva,
He looks skyward,
embracing All.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B76PUvlzzB0&list=PLXdNI5smwBLI6cyCFh4TO2-bqFc-6U0lQ&index=3

http://reveredhinduism.blogspot.com/2016/07/suvarnamala-stuti.html

Unending Love

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times...
In life after life, in age after age, forever.
My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,
In life after life, in age after age, forever.

Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, it's age old pain,
It's ancient tale of being apart or together.
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge,
Clad in the light of a pole-star, piercing the darkness of time.
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount.
At the heart of time, love of one for another.
We have played along side millions of lovers,
Shared in the same shy sweetness of meeting,
the distressful tears of farewell,
Old love but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you
The love of all man's days both past and forever:
Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life.
The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours -
And the songs of every poet past and forever.”

― Rabindranath Tagore, Selected Poems

The ache of a broken heart...

You and me... a beautiful, hazy dream
I saw us bathed in love's golden stream

I thought we'd be simple together
I thought we'd be happy together
I thought we'd be limitless together
I thought we'd be precious together
I thought we'd be forever together

I thought you'd see me
I thought you'd feel me
I thought you'd realise me
I thought you'd hold me
I thought you'd love me

But I was sadly mistaken.

Now I sit with the pieces of a broken dream
that keep me warm and a sad smile
that belies the deep sorrow that
your love has carved into my soul.

What a huge price to pay for a simple dream of love
What a heavy burden for a light intent of love

I just wish I knew what to do now...
I just wish I felt a little less lost...

And amidst all the tears I laugh too...
Because I didn't even get to really look my fill of you!

"When soul meets soul, magic happens.
Pretence falls away.
One becomes authentic and real.

There is no need to hide any part of ourselves, for we stand naked, vulnerable, but with this, our highest soul truth can emerge, our shadow and light.

We can voice our inner-most thoughts, we can share our inner-most Being, that which makes our souls soar and fly, and that which so often pulls us down.

When soul meets soul, it is more of an energetic exchange, for one is now reading the other, at energetic soul level, for the soul is pure energy.

Lies cannot exist in energy fields, nor can masks and pretence.
The inner eyes will read the energy fields, and it will read what is not authentic and true.

It is when souls are stripped of all the impediments of earthly incarnations, that their highest truth shines through.

All that is left, is pure, unconditional love.
Love without condition.
Love that just openly loves and accepts all as it is.
Love that loves.

And has the wisdom to see the soul in its original truthful splendour, as the Divine sees it and loves it just the way it is"~

WHAT IS LOVE?

Love is a beggar
as taught by those
who use it as a weapon

Love is hard work 
according to those
who do not know it’s
purpose and power

Love is a bomb
ticking away inside
the chest of the fearfully
wounded

Love is a lure
tucked into a trap
by those who seek to
use it for control

Love is a school
say the ones who
know not how to
practice it’s full potency

And love is a dream
say those who lost it

I say love is none
of these on it’s own

And only becomes these
when twisted by the minds
of those who fail to grasp
the concept of love’s freedoms

Love is a frequency
an ever present signal
pulsing and pulling

beckoning without chase
A calling with no pursuit

Love is an open door
and a permanently playing song
just waiting for the volume
to be turned up

Love has no
requirement
save one

The choice
to receive it

Love has no condition

except the willingness
to let it in

And love has no source

For love is the source itself.~

She

For the love of a tree..
She went out on a limb.
For the love of the sea..
She rocked the boat.
For the love of the earth..
She dug deeper.
For the love of community..
She mended fences.
For the love of the stars..
She let her light shine.
For the love of spirit..
She nurtured her soul.
For the love of a good time..
She sowed seeds of happiness.
For the love of the Goddess..
She drew down the moon.
For the love of nature..
She made compost.
For the love of a good meal..
She gave thanks.
For the love of family..
She reconciled differences.
For the love of creativity..
She entertained new possibilities.
For the love of her enemies..
She suspended judgment.
For the love of herself..
She acknowledged her worth.
And the world was richer for her.

Last night, Maa appeared in my dream...

It must have been the wee hours of morning, the time when the birds start stirring with life... and the sun hangs low, waiting to bring the world to its feet once again. When she came and sat next to me, I felt the mattress dip and I woke up with a start and it was my mother, long gone from this world, looking as radiant and beautiful as ever. She was smiling yet looked anxious. I said "Maa, is everything okay? You hardly ever visit me..." and she stroked my forehead and said "I know the heartbreak you have experienced in the last few months. I am worried and afraid for you."

Tell me, my rabbit (her nickname for me)... tell me about him. I looked at her, lowered my eyes and said softly "Maa I love him. It is as simple and as beautiful as that. I have read about it and we even discussed about love in the books we read. I never thought I'd experience my soul actually be another's half... I thought it happens only in imagination or fiction. But it has happened to me. I love him with all my being, my heart and soul. I would give my life for him in a second, without thought if I just know it needs to be done for his happiness and peace. I see him, not just the handsome, soft yet strong man he appears to be. I see his heart, full of love and gentleness. I see the kindness in him. I see how he always puts others before him and has all his life. I wanted to be someone who puts him first. He is a beautiful and pure heart... and I cherish him. I adore him."

She nodded and said "But, child, he doesn't love you. He does not even know this." I said "I know and it's okay. Love does not want anything except the opportunity to be received, to be given. Anything that craves possession is a factor of our ego, Maa. I just wanted to be his strength, the way he would have been mine. I wanted to hold his hand and journey through life. I wanted to be a smile on his face and a reason for his joy. I wanted to love him and his family and just be grateful to be a part of such a man's life. But, sometimes, no matter how altruistic and pure our thought and intention maybe, life flows in another direction. We just have to accept it. It did feel like for a moment, that he sees me. But I was mistaken. It would have been a reward of many lifetimes to have this dream manifest... maybe I have to be more deserving of a love like this." 

She sighed and said "But have you thought of yourself? Your future?"  I smiled and said "You know me, Maa. I have never been someone who is worried or afraid about the future. I just go from day to day wanting to make the best of whatever comes my way. I have learnt that you cannot second guess or plan life too minutely. And being afraid of a tomorrow that may never come, only robs us of the joy in today which is before us."

She nodded and said "I could never make you worldwise. You were always my crazy little girl with a heart as vast as the sky. I could never make you be afraid of this world. I just wanted you to be happy, my little one. What about marriage? Who will look after you?" 

"Look at me, Maa... see how I shine? See my smile? Where do you think it comes from... a happiness, deeply rooted in my heart. I am blessed to have this heart. People get married, are in relationships are they all happy? Sadly, no. I am so lucky (maybe not in the eyes of this world) to have this love. At least I know the someone I really want is here, is alive. Even from afar, I know someone I TRULY want to pray for. How many people even couples, really love their partners so? They stay together for the sake of society and convention, yet remain unfulfilled in their being. See me, Maa, I am LOVE. I have this love that will sustain me forever. I will see him once in a while and if I see that he is happy and content. I will smile inwardly and sing a song. I will keep on meeting people with an open heart and mind and as for looking after me, see Him. He is my strength, no not the man I love... HIM. My divine father, who now, walks with me with every step. Maa, I trust HIM and believe me, Woh kabhi mera bura nahin hone denge. He knows the reason behind every sorrow and joy. I am now in HIS hands. You need not worry." 

She looked relieved and touched my cheek "Any regrets?"

I said "Well, not exactly regret but sometimes, I do feel sad that I could not even tell him, I really wanted to hold his hands and just tell him that I love him. This emotion sometimes falls from my eyes. It is just love that could not be expressed that flows as tears." 

She then held my close to her bosom and said "Make a wish, Lopa." 

"Maa, my wish is that in anyway, without creating any disturbance or ever being a frown on his face, may my love be his strength just the way it is my courage. And Maa, do this for me just one time, go as a soft breeze and ruffle his hair, caress his cheek, bringing him a moment of sudden relief and calm which he just feels and cannot explain."

She laughed and gently slapped my cheek and said "I will." 

A beautiful poem by Rumi.

I will be waiting here

For the grey sky to cry

For your suspicions to die

For you to really try

I will be waiting here

For the white snow to melt

For the roses to be smelt

For you to feel what I felt

I will be waiting here

For the moments to pass

For the memories to last

For you to break that glass

I will be waiting here

For the ships to sail on the sea

For the clock to strike three

For you to believe in me

I will be waiting here

For your silence to break

For your soul to shake

For your love to wake

~ Rumi

Life IS! You choose what to make of it!

LIFE IN ITSELF IS NOT MEANINGFUL It is meaningful only if you can sing a song of the eternal, if you can release some fragrance of the divine, of the godly, if you can become a lotus flower -- deathless, timeless.

If you can become pure love, if you can beautify this existence, IF YOU CAN BECOME A BLESSING TO THIS EXISTENCE, only then life has significance; otherwise it is pointless. It is like an empty canvas: you can go on carrying it your whole life and you can die under its weight, but what is the point? PAINT SOMETHING ON IT!

Meaning has to be created in life; meaning is not given already. You are given freedom, you are given creativity, you are given life. All that is needed to create meaning is given. All the essential ingredients of meaning are given, but meaning is not given, MEANING HAS TO BE CREATED BY YOU. You have to become a creator in your own right.

AND WHEN YOU BECAME A CREATOR in your own right, you participate with God, YOU BECOME A PART OF GOD.

Giving and Receiving Are The Same~

Choose to give something from your heart today. Don’t hold back the Divine urge to express the beauty of who you are: the reason you are here on Earth is to give of yourself unconditionally.
Your ego will try to convince you that you should hoard and retain your Light because it is finite and will dry up if you give it all away. You’ll be ‘done over’, 'cheated’ or 'ripped off’ if you are generous and extend your energy to others without thought of what you will get out of it - this is what the ego tells you.

In Spiritual Truth, this is an erroneous concept because Spirit says, “As you give, so you shall receive.” This means that the quality of your giving is mirrored exactly by how you then receive. If you are stingy, miserly and judgemental about how and what you give, you’ll find that you are on the receiving end of this energetic and emotional statement, too.

If you want to receive more, give more first. Those people who seem to receive a lot (not just monetarily, but emotionally, spiritually, energetically) usually have extended their energy outwards in a confident, generous and magnanimous fashion. This isn’t the same as just 'having a lot of money’, because some people have money but are not rich or abundant in their life force energy. They hoard and are stingy with their money even though they have a fair amount. This doesn’t bring them joy or spiritual contentment because they are not in the flow of their heart, and their money isn’t doing good in the world - it’s not circulating and bringing Light.

Your giving is always noticed by the Universe, and the universal Law of Giving and Receiving compensates accordingly without deviation. If you want to live a more abundant life in any sense, give abundantly of your love (which means your kindness, time, skills, gifts, energy) and it will create a force-field around you that magnetises what you have given back to you.

When you Love Someone you Can’t be With.

Each day I wake, having told myself I would not…that I would not hold on.

That I would let go of you—that when I wake, I’ll have let you go.

But this morning, like many mornings, I’ve awoken to the delicate whisper of your soul yet again.

I think, “D*mn it, I’m still in love with him,” relating to how I feel about someone so strongly despite the many feeble efforts I make each day to detach, let go and love without expectation. The moment he crosses my mind, it’s all over. The first glimpse of him each time and I’m falling again—falling for him all over again. He mesmerizes me.

This man who haunts my thoughts, desires and dreams—I can’t help the way I feel about him, and so often I’ve tried to discount these feelings and rationalize this behavior as love-lust or an infatuation, ignoring what’s real and passing through me in the present moment.

I’m cultivating love, and each day our lesson is to acknowledge it while giving it to the divine for transmutation and expression. In this case I cannot reach out to him and simply say, “I love you, I’m in love with you.” And sometimes that just burns me up is the need the bone deep need to just hold him tight and say that even if it is for a moment... let my heart empty itself of the love it carries around with his name on it. 

What am I to do about this very real, nagging feeling that occupies my mind, body, heart and spirit so often? We suck it up—remembering to love ourselves first and foremost because needing someone this way reminds us of how much we need ourselves too; that self-love cannot be relied upon from others for our own personal satisfaction and fulfillment.

Sometimes we simply need to be there, holding space—not making sense of it or trying to examine things too closely. Sometimes our heart simply wants us to stay put and to be there if or when someone needs us. Even if we’re thousands of miles apart, we can be there for them—in spirit.We need only think of them for a few moments, realize how blessed we are to know them and that our lives intertwine and separate for many mysterious reasons, of which we really have no genuine comprehension of.
It’s a miracle to even know someone on such a soul-deep level.

What are we to do when someone else’s heart drifts elsewhere?

We honor their space and respect their commitments while remaining steadfast to our own.

The man I imagine loving would do it for me, so I will do the same for him.

Sometimes the cultivation of love is meant to gestate over long distances and periods of time.

We can simply smile kindly upon this person we hold so dear to our hearts and whisper how happy we are for them into the wind.

I’ll even whisper, “I love you.”

Because I care—for reasons that cannot be explained. Because I just love him and that too cannot be explained.

The Embrace of Love

We hold each other. 
❤️ 
In allowing myself to be vulnerable, I awaken your stregnth and in absorbing your stregnth, I find my rest.
❤️ 
And suddenly life brings me back to appreciating the simple, the tender and the kind in you, my love. 
❤️ 
Suddenly my body and soul find home in your sincere hug, like a breath of fresh air, like sunlight warming my heart to my very toes. 
❤️
To be lost in those eyes, open and unafraid, windows to life and love and desire.
❤️
An unexpected caress, full of intent and appreciation for the seconds of skin connecting, so much more than skin.
❤️
Everything can be ok, in this embrace, I feel time stand still, and all the worries of the day simply breaking to bits.
❤️
And all I got for you is me, my sincere self, and I show you how much I care, how much you mean to me.
❤️
And in silence, we go back to basics, to tenderness, to simple and ever powerful Love.

TRAUMA

is the invisible force that keeps us running, restless, in pursuit of some intangible goal.
Caught up in some unnecessary activity.
Addiction. Compulsions.
Makes us escape into thinking.
Makes the body feel unsafe.
Makes the present moment into an enemy.

If we slow down. If we stop.
If we rest. If we simply do nothing.
Then we will have to face ... ourselves.
We will have to face buried feelings.
All the sh*t we were running from.
All the darkness. The gunk. The muck.
The loneliness. The boredom. The emptiness.

Trauma says “run!”.
Trauma says “stillness is dangerous!”.
Trauma says “Do Not Rest!”.

We have to start by proving to ourselves that it is safe to rest! Safe to be still. Safe to do nothing, just for a moment. Safe to think our thoughts and feel our feelings ...

... and not ‘fix’ the moment.

We can begin - one moment at a time - to digest all the undigested things inside. Stay with sadness for a moment longer. Be present with our joy. Breathe into our anxiety instead of running from it. Become curious about our discomfort instead of distracting ourselves with (unnecessary food, drink, cleaning, drugs, sex, shopping, Internet, thinking, talking, yoga, seeking, rumination, spiritual practice...)

We can begin to challenge the core story at the heart of trauma: That the present moment is unsafe. That the body is against us. That feelings are dangerous.

That stillness equals death and destruction.

That we have to ‘do’ something in order to be worthy, and loved, and safe, and whole.

It takes courage to stop running.
It takes courage to lean into the storm.
It takes courage to touch the darkness inside with the infinite light of our curious attention.

It takes courage to break the addiction to future.

And be here now.

And breathe.

And not know.

Seek to understand, for with understanding comes acceptance, peace, and – in many instances – love. We cannot hate what we understand.

Remove the ego. Everyone you meet, every person who makes you smile, dance, cringe, swear, and scream, each one is simply trying to get through the day the best way she knows how. Each is striving to become the person he wants to be. Each is working to live the life she wants to live. Whatever pain anyone in your life may cause you, remember this: It isn’t personal. It is simply a product of that person moving through his life in the best way he can right now.

Forgive easily. Even if the other person doesn’t ask for it, want it, or accept that forgiveness may be needed. (This extends to your past selves as well.) Forgive for others, but most importantly forgive for yourself. Anger, resentment, distrust, jealously – these are all negative emotions that hurt only the person carrying them. Do not let that person be you.

Embrace boundaries – your own and others’. Boundaries are what keep us healthy and engaged with each other. They ensure we invest enough in ourselves to have plenty left over to invest in the people we choose. They help guide us in reserving our energies for people and projects that reward, inspire, and encourage us. They keep romantic relationships alive by helping each partner retain his or her individuality – that spark of self that attracted their mates in the first place.

Be who you are. We are all flawed; this is part of our brilliance. Love your flaws. You are the only you that has ever been, the only you that ever will be. You have unique gifts to offer the people you meet and the world in which you live, and these gifts are inherently tied to your individual perspective.

Regret nothing. Each moment of your life – each choice you have made and experience you have encountered – has shaped you into the person you are, right now. If you don’t like where you are or who you are, work on loving yourself harder and creating the version of yourself and life you want. If you’re happy, be grateful and know that everything in your life happened exactly as it was meant to happen.

Pay attention to how things make you feel. At its essence, life is a subjective experience. It doesn’t matter what you have, who you’re with, what you look like, how much money you make, or what you do for a living, if you’re not getting positive emotions from those things, people, and events.

Recognize that time is your most precious commodity. None of us knows how many years, months, days, hours, or minutes we get. Make the most of each one. At the end of your life, if you’re granted a final moment to say good-bye, it will be time – not money, status, fame, or belongings – that you’ll appreciate most. Do the things that bring you joy now.

Time.

We often perceive that there is so much of it for most of our lives, but the reality is that time is always running out on us. And we have no idea when our personal time will be gone.

That's why there is no time to wait to embrace love, to follow our hearts, to learn to listen to our soul's deepest callings, and follow the spiritual path. There may not be time for it in 10 years or even 10 minutes.

With life being as precious as it is, avoid the trap of delaying what matters to you, and go towards your truth today.

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Saying, "No," to what you want.

It's a sad truth that many people will say, "No," to the very thing, person, situation, or something else that they want. Right at the cusp of attaining a heart's true desire, the ego wrecks the party. And the person says, "No," to the new deep love connection. The person says, "No," to the dream job. The person says, "No," to the vacation they've always wanted. People say, "No," in a myriad of ways.

But the answer here is not just to say, "Yes." The answer is to understand the ego. The answer is to go towards the part of you saying, "No," and to look at the fears and attachments that created that response. That is where your spiritual work is, and if you do it, then the next time something that truly matters to you arises, saying, "Yes," is effortless.

What you seek, seeks you too! Your thirst for Him is His thirst for you!

Longing itself is Divine.

Longing for worldly things makes you inert.

Longing for infinity fills you with life.

When longing dies, inertia sets in. But longing also brings a sense of pain.

To avoid the pain, you try to push away the longing. The skill is to bear the pain of longing and move on. Do not try to find a shortcut to overcome longing. Do not make the longing short – that’s why it is called loooonging. True longing in itself brings up moments of bliss. That is why in ancient days longing was kept alive by singing and listening to kathas, or stories. When longing transcends relationships, then judgments, jealousy and all negative feelings drop. It is only with wisdom and self-knowledge that you can transcend relationships. People often think wisdom is devoid of longing – no! Such wisdom is dry. The longing that comes with true wisdom makes life juicier.

The Divine is certainly juicy! Longing gives you the power to bless. Bless the entire creation for the longing in you is God. 

Fall madly, completely, utterly in love... never fear the dynamics of bliss that flow through you... dont close yourself, don't hide behind denial, be balanced and conscientious, be honest and be motivated with the intention to bring joy to others, your light shines in the world... never be afraid to nourish with your love... smile, rejoice, dance with Him... let your celebration of all that Is heal the world!

YOU ARE NEVER FAR FROM HEALING

You are never far from healing,
for healing is not a destination.
It is more like a remembering;
a constant invitation.

It is like the Sun; always there,
yet sometimes hidden
by innocent clouds.
When you feel far from healing,
when doubt rages, and sorrow fills your being,
and pain stings and burns;
when yesterday's joys seem so far away,
and tomorrow's happiness is a distant fantasy;
when you feel like you're living the wrong life,
and nothing seems possible,
stop, just for a moment.
Bring your attention out of past and future.
Invite curiosity into the moment.
Into the body, the breath.
This living scene. This day, this hour.
What's it like to be alive, just for a moment?
Can you feel your feet on the earth?
Can you feel your belly rise and fall?
What if you're not far from healing?
What if you're not actually broken?
What if healing IS presence?
This timeless sense of being alive?
What if the future is unknown, and your fears are all in your mind?
What if the Sun never stops shining,
even as the storm rages?

I’d like to lie with you
and for each time we undress to marvel at the newness
of each other’s skin
To be the lovers that drink up love
Like they’re starving
Tasting stars and drinking moonlight
I’d like to kiss you when the moon is full, or new or a quarter
It doesn’t really matter
I just want those lips
I’d like for it to rain
And listen to the tink tink
As I count stars
Or for it to not rain and be sunny
I’d like to hold you,
Not because I’m cold
But because I want to lie beside you
I’d like to love you when the sun comes up
To bathe in our light
To drink coffee tangled in a messy joyous heap
I’d like to make raspberries on your back and tickle you till you shove me off the bed
I’d like to start the day laughing
And I’d like to make love to you
Right there
On the floor
For my sole intent is to drink your existence.

Being Single Is Better Than Being With Someone Whose Soul Doesn’t Match Yours

It is okay to wait for the right person for you. There is nothing wrong with being single. Actually, it is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. You become stronger and stronger because you are responsible for every aspect of your life... there is no pressure on another to complete you or to make you happy. 

When you are in a relationship out of loneliness or boredom, or pressure from the world, please know that you are wasting precious time. Yours and the other person's... when you "settle down" with someone who doesn't make your heart sing and your soul soar... you block the potential for true love not just for yourself but for the other person as well.

Real love does not come easy and often. You can’t transform a mediocre relationship into a soulmate connection. You may settle down into a bland, mundane routine which is comforting to your need to be with someone but you remain thirsty for true connection and soul deep intimacy. 

You should be really careful with your emotions. Don’t waste them on people that you know you don’t belong with. Don’t open your heart to someone who will never appreciate its greatness or see you for the awesome amazing being that you are.

Sometimes even the mere idea of being in a relationship can be so strong and alluring that we end up with someone who we know is the wrong person for us, but we decide to give them a chance because we want to be in a relationship.

We should all take a moment and reflect on our lives and our decisions. Being single is an amazing thing. You can do so many things that can fulfill you even more than a relationship with someone whose soul is not vibrating on the same level as yours.

Stay single until you find someone whose soul matches yours. It is hard to retain the belief in true love but just have faith that if it burns in your heart... it burns in someone else's heart as well. And when you touch your heart and feel the bliss of love, you will never be truly satisfied with anything less.

Bless the world... by being a blessing

The spark in your eyes
The smile in your face
The tone of your voice
The touch of your hand
The way you walk
The way you talk
The way you love to love
The way you sing and dance
The way you make romance
The way you roar and soar
The way you laugh at pain and misery
The way you solve all mysteries
The way you discover your inner self
The way you shine your inner light
The way you show the way when all is lost
The way you arrive with all you got
And offer everyone your higher thoughts
The way you offer gratitude
for all to see and hear
The way you are sincere honest decent
authentic for real Genuine and true
Yes it is a blessing to be a blessing...