On listening to gossip or facing an argument.

Gossip and under cover, finger pointing, judgement and separation is rife in so called "spiritual communities".
What is in it for you or the other. Do you really have to participate? Think peace rather than noise.
LOVE is not jealousy, name calling, "I'm better than you" "I'm more on the path than you". I have better tools" "I've been doing it longer". "I coming from a higher dimension"... and so many more subtle and not so subtle ways of judging others against yourself or judging yourself against others.
Haven't you realised that your path is totally and perfectly mapped out for your perfect alignment if only you would Trust and follow your own Heart and Higher Self promptings?
And "Mind you own business".

Choose to be with your internal Smile. And always silence over trying to be right.
Say “No” when it is necessary that the other know where you stand but otherwise find the place of Presence within yourself, see that same place in the other and hold your tongue.
And never be afraid to walk away without judgement but with Love in your Heart, or “walking tall” in your Lovingness for All.

PS And it is not about convincing me that you are beyond all this. It is about your own inner knowing of how loving you are and can be.
If you want to break your own dramas stay out of the dramas of others for a start, and be unafraid to be seen to withdraw. What kind of pleasure is it to enjoy the sharing of others misery?
Next stop repeat telling of your story. What kind of glory do you create by forever dumping your moods on others. There is a subtle pressure for your past misery mastered to become a badge of merit that gives you bragging rights to puff yourself up.