LOVE'S ADVENTURE

We long for love as much as we fear receiving it.

We yearn to be seen as much as we bolt at the possibility of being seen.

We hunger for the deep embrace of presence, tender eyes that gaze upon us with understanding and empathy, as much as we try to escape that very holding. It's too intimate. Too risky. Too exposing.

Nowhere to hide. To be seen is to be loved. To be seen is to die. Love is danger. Or so we have been taught.

A battle rages in us. The unloved one longing to hide, and the one who longs for the thrill and risk of living. Contraction and expansion. Breathing, in and out.

Unconsciously, we are attracted to or repelled by those who treat us, speak to us, hold us the way our parents did or did not. We are drawn to those who can heal us, and sometimes drawn to those who cannot, or worse. We think we are falling in love with a person, and sometimes we are just falling in love with our own image of them, which has nothing to do with the 'other' at all.

We love and we lose our images of love. We rise and we fall. Our hearts soar and our hearts break into a million pieces. We seek security and find insecurity and we find security in that. We seek freedom and find the prison of our own programming and lose hope and then regain it.

Sometimes it takes courage to leave a relationship. Sometimes it takes courage to stay. Sometimes it takes courage to do nothing, today. Sometimes it takes courage to admit how much pain you are in.

Sometimes it takes courage to admit how happy you are.

Sometimes you take a step without knowing why, and everything only becomes clear in hindsight.

You can't get it wrong anyway.

We lose ourselves and we find ourselves. We give more than we can take, exhausting ourselves in the name of "love". Or we run as fast as we can, exhausting ourselves in our flight from "love".

"Will somebody see me. Listen. Hold me. Let me break..."

And the drama of love plays out. And as the play goes on we learn more about ourselves. We begin to see our blind spots. Our unconscious patterns come into the light of awareness. We realise our assumptions. Our childhood fantasies start to crumble. Pain that we never wanted to feel, we suddenly feel. Grief. Anger. Feelings of rejection, abandonment. We want to run, go back into the old addictions, the old comfort, and for whatever reason, we don't. We get curious. We start looking and stop thinking so much.

We begin to relate to ourselves. Treat ourselves like the greatest lovers that we are. The most fascinating and beloved creatures.

With each day, we begin meeting ourselves more deeply. Discovering who we really are. What we feel, and what we don't. What we want and what we don't. Learning to say 'yes' when we mean yes and 'no' when we mean no and if that hurts someone, giving them back their responsibility to heal. Learning that love is not all butterflies and roses and positive feelings. It is work, too. It is mess. It is pain and the courage to breathe through that pain into joy and expansiveness. Love asks us to become more and more real, more and more human, more and more conscious, less and less perfect. More self-aware and willing to feel. And to feel more. And to feel more. And more. And to let our hearts break sometimes. To not know, sometimes. To be bored, sometimes. To be blissed-out, sometimes. To be full of life. To sometimes not know what the next step is. And to take it, or not.

Love is not a feeling, a state, or an experience. It's not a destination.

It's this extraordinary Light that shines from within.

It's this radiant Knowing that never leaves.

It's the Joy of being alive.

We can know it together. We can know it alone.

We can remind each other of it. We can forget, too.

We can trigger each other and help each other get curious about those triggers. We can do that work, or not.

We can meet in love's fire. Walk together, or not.

Share our hearts. Step back. Step towards. Or stay where we are.

Learn to love the dance of it, the spontaneity, the adventure, the mystery, the immediacy and the intimacy of it and the running too.

Learn to unlearn what we knew and embrace the unknowing as new knowing.

And get more and more content with the unresolveability of it all.

More and more happy with the unhappy one, certain about the uncertainty, so secure in the insecurity.

More and more blissed-out at our lack of bliss.

More and more curious about what's here Now.

Less and less solid, more and more playful.

Less a seeker of love, more a giver of it, and a finder, and a Presence that invites others into the same wild joy.

This is Love's Adventure.

The Perfect Lover~~

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder – an old saying which contains an element of truth. Whether we know it or not, each of us is searching for completion with our perfect lover. He or she may not be physically beautiful in a worldly sense but will have an unmistakeable quality which creates a heightened sensitivity when in their presence.

The perfection, however, isn’t the man or woman but the state of love expressive in all its wild abandonment and creative intensity. This searing impersonal love eliminates the cloying sentimentality of human attachment and introduces a dynamism of extraordinary magnetic power. The transition from human to divine lover is intense and all-consuming as the resolve to serve the principle of love becomes the main focus of the life. Eventually, through Grace, the personal taint of self is transformed through the heroic undergoing of love’s purpose on earth. The perfect lover has been made simple through the experience of their relationships in the sensual world. Such a man or woman then communicates through presence, and in physical union their inner nature is able to merge with great love and tenderness in the deepest centre of the beloved within the being.

The pinnacle of life as a human being is to be loved by the personification of God in existence. Only in the validation in the flesh and blood body through such an exalted presence (ordinary as they may appear) can the original state of love be realised at a level where the life is irrevocably changed by the power of the spirit. And yet the perfect lover is always now, at least as a potential in the living life. This is because in a partnership, be it harmonious or challenging, something is happening that is altering what happened last moment. Nothing is static, but an ongoing collision of incalculable complexity of forces which energetically orchestrate our lives and that of the celestial bodies which revolve in the consciousness of the mind.

For someone without a partner the perfect lover is present, albeit not necessarily physically manifest in the flesh. It’s possible to connect with the energy of this love by being still and putting the focus inside the body. What is registered when nothing becomes the sweetness of existence without formality is the formless love, which waits for the moment to be made real in sense. However someone advanced in age, who is perhaps no longer able or inclined to make physical love, can rest easy in the living reality of all the love that has been made in the great journey through existence. This can often be observed in dear elderly men and women who are content to sit for hours gazing out across the fields or the sea, naturally connected to their perfect lover within the being.

The perfect lover is a companion in both life and death. The actual living experience is the formal aspect of love’s purpose, whereas the virtue of the often difficult situations that must accompany great love is the immortal state. In that other place, free of the restrictions of physical bodies, the reality behind the form is creatively free as a joyous expression of the authentic spiritual being. Love in the immortal space is complete as a unity of everything anyone has ever loved or recognised as the beauty and wonder of the sensory earth. This heavenly emanation is the purity of love without formality. Here, someone only has to think of a loved one and they’ve immediately united with them. But also, it’s possible to enjoy the smell of the rose or the rain, all being created simultaneously within the being.

Finally, if the love between partners has been real and true enough while embodied together on earth, they are united forever in that immortal place beyond death – and are never seen again, except perhaps as the twinkle of some distant star. And whoever gazes upon that star in a state of pure receptivity to love will be inspired and assisted in some way towards union with the perfect lover, which is the eternal destiny of us all.~

Imagine finding a woman
who has cultivated so much love,
that she has emerged
as a living conduit
for it to course through,
residing in a constant state of
outflow,
never expecting to receive,
because she is already so
nourished
from within
and from Above,
allowing her to receive you with
immaculacy -
without attachment -
when you do reflect love back.

Imagine finding a woman
who has become light itself,
illuminating all around her,
her rays
filtering their way into
not just the windows
you choose to open but
seeping into
each
and
every
single
crack
in your armour,
that you didn’t even know were there,
discovering with relief
and terror
that
your shadows
have nowhere left to hide.

Imagine finding a woman
who is already married to God,
who looks to you for
nothing
more
than your rawest,
most authentic
self,
needing nothing of you,
but softly asking for,
seductively beckoning for
the gift you’ve not yet given -
the one that sits in the deepest part of you -
that you have been afraid to retrieve,
wanting only that,
with no expectation
of what it will look like
or what it even is,
just that
she’ll know it
when she
feels
it.

Imagine finding a woman
who has trained her eyes
to see people’s
souls,
upon whom your acting and posturing
has no effect
other than to make her chuckle knowingly,
who loves your masks too,
and lets you know
sometimes gently
and sometimes firmly,
but always lovingly,
when you’ve been wearing one for too long.

Imagine finding a woman
who has quietly tended
to the garden of her soul
so tenderly,
and for so long,
and with such bravery,
unafraid
to water it with the tears of her
soul-grief,
planting the very
last seeds
left in the pouch
of her heart,
that the strength of her faith
that they would grow into vines
that could
reach up
towards the light,
touch the light
and
become
the light,
restores your own faith
such that
you yourself
are reborn
as a
Believer.

Imagine finding a woman
who has found
herself.

There is nothing to fight and nothing to fear in this world. But most of you do not believe this. You think you have to change things. You believe you have to make things happen. If you do not make things happen things will break down, nothing will be right.

Who told you this?

The only thing that will break down is your ego. Yet some of you will not allow this to happen. You will fight for your ego, you will protect your ego at all cost for you are afraid to let go. You do not know what is on the other side. You think if you let go you will be a wimp or a coward. You think all your good will be taken away from you. This is impossible.

The planets spin in their orbits, the sun shines, the flowers grow. All these things happen without confusion, without chaos, everything is unfolding as it should but you come along and want to change things. You want to make this a better world in which to live...

Find yourself first then see if you want to change the world. Find yourself first then see if you want to change your life. Find yourself first then see if anything is missing from your life.

It all begins with you. It all begins with you. You are the one.

THE LOVING MASCULINE: THE LOST KEY TO BALANCE~~

What I see is an infinite potential. We are designed to work in perfect harmony with each other.

Our brains and emotional systems, when loved and acknowledged, awaken to incredible limitlessness. And the potential of our bodies exceed what we were told to be.

Men and women are meant to help each other to complete the awakening of our sexuality and our emotions. Both are keys to reach the balance we seek.

This is the beauty of our polarity. That is the magic of the Yin and Yang. The reason why falling in love with each other will heal humanity.

A World of Polarity

The Feminine, in the past 2000 years, has been overly passive (Yin) while the Masculine excessively violent (Yang).

Then, in the last century, we went through a historic process of women finding their strength in the imitation of masculine roles, a necessary step that brought big change to the world, but one that no longer serves feminine freedom.

In the last few years, we have witnessed the over-feminization of men seeking to reconnect with their Yin qualities.

We are reaching that balance now.

The Masculine

I feel that the masculine energy is rising in balance, leaving aside the old paradigms, and opening to deep listening of the feminine wounds.

I see men firmly established in their masculinity, allowing softness to be a part of their honest expression.

I’m observing men opening up to their vulnerability with the grounded approach of the wise warrior, inviting their feminine nature of intuition and compassion to develop.

Throughout history, men have been required to show up, no matter what their emotional needs were.

At the same time, we expect them to be in contact with their feelings, listening and caring. Demanding to see their softness, asking that they understand women who were never taught how to understand themselves.

They love and hold space for the wounded woman, but most of the times no one holds space for them.

Yin and Yang bodies

The human body has seven main centers of energy, known in Eastern traditions as chakras.

Two of these energy vortices are very different in men and women. The second chakra is linked to sexuality, and the fourth chakra is linked to the heart.

The Heart

The heart chakra in the woman’s body is expressed in a beautiful outer form, the breast, which comforts and nourishes in a powerful expression of our potential for unconditional giving. In men, their physicality is much more like armor. Social roles they have had throughout history reinforced this, so their heart is harder to reach.

But that doesn’t mean it does not desire to be touched just as much. The endless search for connection, the craving for love, and the wish to be held and nourished, is one of the best kept secrets of the masculine.

I feel that it is time to help heal the Masculine by holding men close to our hearts. Sharing with them our wisdom: how to access the unconditional love that characterizes the Divine Feminine.

Loving them without asking for anything, nourishing them and holding space for their vulnerability, so they can relax into openness. Because emotions are our best intuitive guide, and when healthy and healed, the strength comes from a centered stable place.

The Sex

The second chakra is also manifested very different in men and women.

The female sexuality goes inside, receiving and sensitive when loved and respected, hiding and blocking when shamed.

The masculine sexuality goes outwards. Loving and caring when balanced, forcing and intrusive when unbalanced.

This is the beauty of our polarity. That is the magic of the Yin and Yang. The reason why falling in love with each other will heal humanity.

I HAVE FOUND MY TRUE RELIGION

I studied the world’s great religions.
I devoured the long, dense tomes of philosophers.
I did what the gods and gurus said I should do.

I was a good boy yet I found no comfort, no home.
Only second-hand thoughts from second-hand people
and a brief respite from a terrible nostalgia.

In the name of spirituality I fell into denial.
I denied anger and called it peace.
I denied shame and called it power.
I denied sexuality and called it purity.
I denied my humanity and called it Awareness.
I denied desire itself and proclaimed myself enlightened.

Now, I find my home in simplicity.
I have been humbled. I know nothing.
I see a cloud and hot tears stream down my face.
Or the face of an old friend, it shocks me with its perfection.
Or a lamppost on my evening walk,
bowing to me with its perfect incandescent light.
All things pull me back to God, I cannot prevent it.

I use human language but I am not quite human.
I am a sparrow at dawn. My song is my home.
My body is my temple. My altar is loss and the strange relief of grieving.
I find solace in the utter lack of solace.
I find rest in my own restless desire for life.

My love, may I sit beside you now?
Will you share with me what’s on your heart?
(I am as lost as you are).
Will you give me your tears, your shudders and your trembling?
Shall I hold you until it stops, and if it never stops shall I hold you?
Will you hold me too?
Shall we look after each other, as the end draws near?
Yes, shall we look after each other?

Oh God. Oh God. I have found my true religion.
Simple. Human. Kindness.

Every single thing always works out even when you don’t understand it at the moment.
You can look back at past experiences and be grateful that certain things didn’t work out because you wouldn’t be where you are. Be grateful.
Whatever you’re going through now will pass.
You are a miracle.
Life is a miracle. Everything around you is all miraculous. Once you see things from this perspective you’ll feel a sense of peace that you don’t have to try so hard to control everything.
Let go and trust in the higher power to guide you. Surrender your worries. Give up your doubt.
Let yourself be free from resistance. Faith and fear can’t occupy the same space. Decide to believe in yourself and watch magical things start to happen in your life.

Stop overthinking, worrying, and stressing yourself out. Everything will be okay.
It might seem like it at the moment when you’re in the midst of everything, but when you let go and feel that sense of inner ease great things will begin to happen for you.
Ease is a state of trust and a powerful way of allowing. Your faith has to be strong in believing that you can manifest and receive what you want.
All your requests and deep desires has been received by the universe. You efforts, your visualizations, and your prayers have been heard.
You sent the signal out, now you just have to trust and be patient as your blessings begin to flow into your life.
Don't think about how it will happen, that's not for you to worry about. Put it out there and let it happen.
The universe picks up vibrations and those in gratitude, joy, and love for what they want to receive get them.
The grateful get showered in blessings.
Instead of overthinking, align your faith with divine timing and trust that everything that belongs in your life is making its way towards you right now.
Don't block what's coming by thinking negatively. What you want has been on the way, but your worry, doubt, and lack of trust has been slowing down the process.
Start releasing and start receiving. You've got this.~